When a woman has postpartum depression, a support system can help her immensely. Here are some ways that you can help.
Postpartum depression is one of the most common afflictions of women after childbirth-- and one of the most misunderstood. Over half of all mothers are afflicted with the baby blues, a mild form of depression that usually fades after a week. Approximately 10 to 20 percent of mothers suffer from postpartum depression, a more serious condition that can result in anxiety, panic attacks, insomnia, feelings of hopelessness, feelings of detachment from the baby, and (very occasionally) suicide or psychosis.
Postpartum depression is treatable with medication and therapy, and its symptoms can often be eased quite a bit with the help of a supportive partner and support system. If a woman with postpartum depression is in your life, here are some simple things you can do to help her through this difficult time.
Make sure she gets the help she needs. It is imperative that a woman with postpartum depression receives psychiatric help. If she hasn't already, make sure she talks with her OB or a psychiatrist about her depression.
Assure her that she is normal. New mothers feel like they are supposed to be happy and may feel guilty and ashamed of their depression. Remind her that PPD is one of the most common problems out there. Never judge her.
Be patient. A woman with PPD may be irritable and irrational. Heck, any woman who just had a baby may be irritable and irrational. Be especially loving and gentle, and try to avoid conflict.
Volunteer to help out. After a woman has a baby, she has precious little time to sleep and take care of herself. Fatigue can make postpartum depression worse. Offer to take care of the baby and older children. Do some housework and run errands.. Taking care of the baby while Mom takes a long nap can help immensely.
Keep her company. Being a new mother can be isolating, and for many women, postpartum depression is worse when they are alone with the baby. Stop by for a long chat, or keep her company on an errand. If you're not nearby, give her a call.
Take a walk together. Exercise is a great way to fight depression. Postpartum women need to exercise in moderation, so a walk is perfect. Getting out of the house will help with the depression as well.
Cook dinner. A home cooked meal can do wonders, especially at a hectic time like this. Make her some of her favorite foods, including a yummy dessert.
Bring her a present. The baby's getting lots of cute things, so bring over something special for Mom. Gifts of relaxation might be in order, such as a mindless novel, a funny DVD, a bubble bath, or candles. Let her know that she's as special as the baby.
Give her snuggles and back rubs. Partners, this means you. On top of being depressed, this poor woman is sore and feels like a pile of flab. Having a baby takes a huge toll on your body and your sense of attractiveness, so assure her that she is beautiful and rub her aching shoulders. (She's almost certainly not ready for sex though. Sorry!)
Respect her needs. People experience depression in different ways. Some people like to be alone, and others hate it. Some need more rest, and others need more activity. Communicate with her about her needs, and listen.
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