Choosing to Stay at Home

Why some mothers choose to be full-time mothers

© Brenda Lane

Apr 19, 2007
Mother and Baby, Suzie Long
While about half of all mothers choose to stay at home, it is still viewed as the lessor of the two choices. There are benefits to full-time mothering

Every new mother is faced with the decision to either return to work full-time, part-time or stay at home after the new baby arrives. Statistics show that 48% of mothers stay home with their children under the age of two, while 25% of mothers stay home when their children are between the ages of 3 and 6. Our culure rarely values this role of the stay-at-home mother and instead seems to tell mothers that they need to "be everything they should be" by pursuing a career. The work of changing diapers, doing laundry and managing a household, is certainly not revered by most people today. Yet there are some benefts to the family should a mother decide to be a stay-at-home mom.

Stability and Consistency at Home

As children grow from infancy to school-age, they are learning all about life and what to expect from the people around them. Children function best in their world by knowing that there is stability and predictability at home. Having a mother home to care for them if they are sick or even later when they get home from school can be a huge benefit to their sense of self-esteem and having a sense that they are cared for and loved.

Management of Household

Anyone who has managed a home knows that it is indeed a full-time job. One big advantage in terms of managing the home is if one parent can tackle all of those responsibilites. Duties like cooking, laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping and even doctor visits can be much more difficult to manage with both parents working full-time.

Cost Savings

Although living on one salary can be challenging if parents are used to having two salaries, there are numerous ways that staying at home can be cost efficient for the family budget. One of the biggest savings is for child care. Cost for full-time child care can range from $400 to almost double that amount each month. In addition, stay-at-home mothers can save on other expenses such as gas, car repairs and clothing.

Experiencing Special Moments

One of the biggest treasures of staying at home with children is sharing in all the the "first" moments. As a new mother, watching daily changes with your new baby as he or she grows is amazing. The first smile, first word and first step are all huge landmarks in the life of your baby. It you are not staying at home, you are likely to miss out on those special "first" moments of your baby's development.

What do you think are other advantages of staying at home? What about advantages of working or having a career outside the home? Tell us on the forum.


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Oct 24, 2008 6:22 AM
Guest :
I think single mothers shouldn't stay at home with their children if thy want their child or children to have a better life or future.But I also think if she is married to a loving husband who supports her and their child then she has the choice to either stay at home or to work versus the single mother status because she doesnt have that much of a choice.So I say NO to single mothers and YES to married mothers.
Nov 24, 2008 5:59 PM
Guest :
There ARE situations when a mother might need to work, but i think that mothers should do eveything they can to remain home and be there for their children. It benifitst the children profoundly.
Dec 3, 2008 10:11 AM
Guest :
i love it
Jan 24, 2009 8:38 AM
Guest :
great article. one of the most important things to remember is you can never get those moments back. every day is a day we will never have again. that being said, there are so many ways to save money when one person is at home and if we can learn to live with less i think many of us will gain a lot more!
Feb 12, 2009 10:48 AM
Melody Rhodes :
Surely material things can wait until a child is of school age. A young child needs love and nurturing, which a parent is in the best position to provide.
Jul 14, 2009 4:51 PM
Guest :
I think as a single mother, if you have the financial stability to stay home with your kids, you should. Speaking as a single mother of two, i chose to stay home. I'm not being lazy but what i am doing is spending some of the most precious moments with my kids now that they are young. You can never get those back. I just dont stay at home, I am a full time student, and i help coach kids in our youth organization. Depending where you live and what the society is like around you, make the right decision. I chose stay home to start my kids off to the right path instead of being on the streeet.
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